May 1, 2011

Interview & Giveaway with Patricia V. Davis, author of "The Diva Doctrine"


About The Diva Doctrine
Patricia V. Davis may be the first to tell you she's an 'Expert in Failed Relationships'. After significant struggles in romance, motherhood, friendship, and family, she knows what she's talking about. So when a simple little blog post offering life and love advice “From an Older Woman to a Younger One” went viral, she was surprised, to say the least. Now that blog post has grown into a full-fledged, invaluable volume for any woman who yearns to discover her inner Diva.
Inside you'll learn:
How to deal with other divas, jerks and your parents
How to combat Diminished Diva Disorder
How to find your hot and sexy soul mate (here's a hint, he's not in Hollywood)
And more!
So whether you're just starting out in the world, have twenty grandchildren, or are anywhere in between, The Diva Doctrine is the only map you'll need on your way to becoming a True Diva!

You can read my review of her book HERE

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First of all, thanks so much for agreeing to an interview here on my blog, Patricia! This is in fact my very first author interview ever, and I'm obviously thrilled that it is with someone who's book I absolutely adored.

You present “16 Universal Principles Every Woman Needs to Know” in your new book The Diva Doctrine. Is there something like a favorite principle among those 16?

Birgit, thank you for having me here, and saying such lovely things about The Diva Doctrine! It’s so nice to meet another book lover. I adore social networking because I get to “meet” so many interesting people from such fabulous places just by sitting at my computer!

As to the “Diva 16”, if I could only pick one principle that for me has been the most helpful, I would say it should be “The only thing you should be faking is confidence. If you don’t have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous, pretend you’re not scared, and after a while, the pretend part disappears.” All through my life, I’ve heard women say they want to try this or that, but when asked why they haven’t done it, they clam up. The reason for that is fear. “What will happen if …?” is what stops women from doing so many things. “What will happen if I pursue my dream and open my own business?” “What will happen if I move to another country?” “What will happen if I leave my husband?” etc. It’s the fear of the thing and not the thing itself that’s so agonizing. So if you just pretend you’re not afraid - and I mean go as far as saying that out loud, even to friends and family (who will probably guess you’re lying!) - you’re brain starts to believe it. It really does. And that frees you up to do all kinds of wonderful things you’d been afraid to do in the past. And if you do the things you dream of doing, you feel so great about that, that everything else in your life, including the way you feel about yourself, starts to fall into place.

Once you refer to three of your five sons as "Mo, Larry and Curly" to “protect their identities and sensibilities”. What was your family's general reaction when they found out just how openly you speak about your own life in the book?

Ummm … well, they haven’t read it yet, so I guess we’ll find out! LOL! Seriously, the girlfriend of one of my sons read it. She was chuckling at some of that bit where I describe the antics of “Mo, Larry and Curly”. My son asked her, “What are you laughing about?” and she said, “You’ll find out!” So … we’ll see Birgit. I’ll have to get back to you on that!

In the final chapter you write that you wouldn't be the woman you are now if you hadn't experienced things exactly the way you did. I wonder, is there really nothing, not even a tiny little detail, you would want to change about your life if you could go back in time?

I wish I had known more about who my mother was as an individual human being, and not just as my mother, my grandmother’s daughter, and my father’s wife. She was very troubled, and it affected our relationship a great deal. If I’d had the wisdom to see her outside of her relationship to me and our family, I might have been able to be a positive force in her life. But you can’t, of course. Certainly not when you’re the child and the adults around you are the adults. And by the time you’re grown, it’s still a mother-daughter relationship, not a friend-friend relationship. I have a feeling I’m not the only woman who feels this way. I think that’s part of the reason I wrote this book. Women of all ages need the guidance and support of other women of all ages. Older women to younger women, and younger women to older women, by helping each other, we become better, stronger women ourselves.

Thank you very much, Patricia!
It was a pleasure having you here and I wish you all the best with your book and for your future.


Want to find out more about Patricia? Visit her website.

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Patricia has generously offered one of my wonderful readers their very own copy of The Diva Doctrine. All you have to do is answer the following question and leave your e-mail address with your comment so I may contact you in case you're the winner.

The question:
If you could go back in time and tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?

Rules
Following my blog is no requirement, but I obviously won't object if you do.
One entry per person.
Open worldwide.

Winner
The giveaway is open from May 1st through May 14th - one winner will be picked through random.org on May 15th and will then be contacted by e-mail as well as announced here on my blog. The winner will have 48 hours to respond and if he/she fails to do so I will draw a new winner.

P.S.: While it won't get you an additional entry, spreading the word about this giveaway is greatly appreciated!

9 comments:

  1. Thanks for a great interview! I will spread the word!

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  2. This is a very good question! What I would tell myself is "Never give up" I was pursing a musical career and well I've recorded, toured etc. but somewhere along the line I just stopped and gave up.

    Thanks so much for this one!

    Margaret
    singitm@hotmail.com

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  3. I would tell my younger self what seems so important in high school doesn't matter once you leave that building. And I would congratulate her for remaining true to herself- no matter what others thought.

    Amy
    aprimeau@onebearcat.com

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  4. I would tell my younger self to be nice and good. I was very naughty as a child and gave my parents a lot of trouble.

    aikychien at yahoo dot com

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  5. i would definately tell myself "don't be so lazy girl, go and study, make your university degree, coz there is nothing more important than being educated, it will open the world to you".

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  6. Don't be afraid to let yourself know the truth, and act on it. You are not like most people and while it may be upsetting to learn that what Most People are happy with will not work for you, know that there are many ways to be happy and you can be. Just stay out of denial.

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  7. Some really great comments here! (can't decide which is my favorite!) ; D

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  8. I'd tell myself that just because you make a mistake doesn't mean your life is over. You can move past them, make amends and make your life worthy again, don't give up and think you've ruined it all.

    kate1485 at hotmail.com

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  9. This giveaway is now closed - thanks for participating!

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